DBT Relationship Tools3.8 - App Store

Fantastic Tools for Interpersonal Relationships!

DBT Communication skills boil down to two things: Asking for what you want, and saying No.

You may have trouble asking for what you want for one of the following reasons:
- You're too shy to ask.
- You are worried they will say no.
- You don't feel like you deserve getting what you want.
- You just feel uncomfortable.
- Maybe you don't have trouble asking, but you have trouble actually getting what you want instead.

You also may have trouble saying no. It could be due to:
- You think it's not polite to say no.
- You're worried what someone will think of you if you say no.
- You think you don't deserve to say no.
- You think you can't say no.
- Or maybe you don't have trouble saying no, but you have trouble saying it in a way that doesn't cause problems.

We all have things we want. If you have trouble communicating this in an effective way (a way that doesn't make things worse and increases the likelihood of you getting what you want), then this app is for you.

How this app will help you
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Like all our 'Tools' apps, we'll start you off with a description of what DBT is. While DBT is a set of skills, there is also a sort of culture around it. And a way of teaching/learning it. Getting an overview of what DBT is, you can more easily see where the skills fit in, and where you can most effectively integrate them into your day-to-day.

Then we'll go over the 7 DBT Interpersonal Communication skills:
. Wise Mind
. Observe
. Describe
. Participate
. Non-Judgmental
. One-Mindfully
. Effectiveness

Finally, we'll start you off using the Interactive Tools:

. Interpersonal Checklist: First, lets start by figuring out what myths you have about your relationships with others. As you progress through DBT, be sure to come back and see how your beliefs may have changed.

. Validation Quiz: Test yourself through several hypothetical situations. What is the difference between validation and flattery for instance? Knowing this can greatly improve any interaction, as validating another human being can be incredibly powerful.

. DEARMAN Builder: Probably the single most powerful skill you will learn in the Interpersonal Relationship area of DBT. Use this tool to quickly and effectively create and rehearse DEARMAN scripts. Don't know what a DEARMAN is? Well, think of it as a rather methodical set of steps to getting what you want out of a conversation with someone. Want a raise? DEARMAN. Want to ask someone out? DEARMAN. Want to reconcile after a fight? DEARMAN.

. Intensity Calculator: Until you really get a feel for how you realistically stand in regard to others, you may be drastically off when it comes the intensity you ask for what you want, or say no. For instance, if you're an employee, and you normally get a yearly raise, and it's been 13 months, then you wouldn't want to scream at your boss. But if it's been 3 years, you definitely would want to increase your intensity over the 13 month you. Use this calculator to figure out how intensely you should communicate something to another. Especially during emotionally charged situations, your natural instinct may be way off. So you may find yourself using this calculator time and time again.

Many of these tools are powerful while you're first learning DBT. But they are also incredibly powerful as a refresher, whether it's been several years since you last practiced, or you just can't remember how to do the skill properly. Maybe you're overwhelmed, or maybe you're just new to the skill. Beginners and Advanced DBT practitioners will find value in this app now, and for years to come should they remember to use it.

* Note that this app can integrate with the Health App by adding 'Mindful Minutes' when you complete DEARMAN entries. This is optional and giving permission will not affect your ability to use this app.

Version History v3.8
• Added a new free tool: Chain Behavior Analysis. Therapists can view/comment on their clients progress online as well.
• Fixed some of the image selection code
• Updated some third party tools 3.8 05/06/2021 v4.7
• Updated the way in which crashes and bug reports are handled 3.7 03/09/2021 v3.6
• Fixed a bug that wouldn't save Therapist Settings once you closed and reopened the app.
• Added a Notes section to the DEARMAN 'Saved Entries' section for you to be able to follow up on your progress.
• Fixed the email PDF button (wasn't attaching the PDF after generating it)
• Added 'Mindful Minutes' to Integrate with the Health App 3.6 03/05/2021 v3.4
• Fixing a bug that made minimizing the app switch certain text components to 'Dark Mode'. 3.4 02/17/2021 v3.2 Thank you for continuing to use our app! Here's what the newest version includes:
• Improved much of the UI to use a more modern look
• Updated some of our third party libraries which should improve performance in certain areas.
• Improved Developer email template.
• Fixed the Therapist Settings page. Updating your settings wasn't working always. Thank you DeAnna for letting me know about this!
• Experimental Therapist Website created which can be used by Therapists to track their client(s)' diary card entries. Details are in the Help section. 3.2 02/10/2021 v3.1 Thank you for continuing to use our app! Here's what the newest version includes:
• Added a 'Purchases' section which will allow you to upgrade to the full version of the Diary Card and Quiz apps (if you are currently in them), as well as showing you which purchases you've made, and which ones are still available.
• Fixed some of the 'Share' features which crashed the app in the past. Thanks Katrina!
• A bit of refactoring. 3.1 10/23/2019 v3.0 Huge Update! You can now create an online account on our new server! It's brand new, so doesn't have everything we'd like implemented, but here's what you can do now:
• Create an account and login/out on different devices (limited syncing capability currently).
• Backup your data
• See new statistics based on the DBT Community that is updated daily
• Access to a new forum for our users to talk with one another.

Other content:
• New "First Diary Card" video and videos section to consolidate our videos
• New 'Instructional' section which shows all of the skills and an overview, without needing to open a Diary Card first.
• Fixed a typo in the 'Definitions' module. Thanks Steph!
• Enhancements to the keyboard in many areas (some inputs didn't automatically capitalize sentences, and some buttons couldn't be tapped before dismissing the keyboard first). 3.0 09/18/2019 • Fixed the GIVE module as it was making the app crash as soon as tapped on. Thanks to Irina for spotting this!
• Added Quick Notes to the Main Menu. You can use this to quickly add notes whenever you want, whether it be for keeping track of your DBT homework assignments, or anything else.
• A new Switch has been added to the 'Generate Reports' section that allows you to add your Quick Notes as the body of your email if you choose to use Email as the way you export.
• Now, when there is a new version of the app, there will be a small notification from the Menu. You can use this to quickly see release notes and update your app as soon as it becomes available. This means less bugs and more features!
• Improved 'Email Developer' information added to better help debug issues.
• Fixed the 'Bug Reports' module so it'll move out of the way of the keyboard in most cases and removed the occasional crash. 2.03 09/05/2018 • Added Quick Notes to the Main Menu. You can use this to quickly add notes whenever you want, whether it be for keeping track of your DBT homework assignments, or anything else.
• A new Switch has been added to the 'Generate Reports' section that allows you to add your Quick Notes as the body of your email if you choose to use Email as the way you export.
• Now, when there is a new version of the app, there will be a small notification from the Menu. You can use this to quickly see release notes and update your app as soon as it becomes available. This means less bugs and more features!
• Improved 'Email Developer' information added to better help debug issues. 2.02 07/19/2018 • Fixed a bug where we left the app in Developer Mode so any new data wasn't being saved! Sorry about that! 2.01 07/15/2018 It's been a long while since our last update, but the most recent version has a ton of new features and has been rebuilt from the ground up!

New Features
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• Recreated all of the tools so they're more polished
• Added 7 new modules focused at newer DBT students. These go over the 7 Communication DBT Skills.
• Improved Stats and Charts.
• Shared Progress between DBT apps so you can see your entire DBT progress, no matter which app you're using.

New Unseen Features for this, and all our DBT Apps
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• Internationalized... so expect new languages being integrated.
• Cross-Platform support. So if you switch platforms, your progress can be transferred over as well.
• Greatly improve developer experience. We've rewritten this app and our other apps from the ground up, so adding new content is much easier than before. This means that it'll be easier to make bug fixes and add new content than ever before.
• Automated Build System. So instead of it taking an hour or two to upload to the App Store, it'll be a few keystrokes and grabbing a coffee while the computer does all the work of uploading a new version. So in the past, we would hold off of making updates if there were just small changes that needed to be made because it seemed like a waste of time to spend an hour or two just for something as simple as a typo fix. Since the build system is automated, expect quicker and more regular updates.

Thank you to everyone who has supported us in the development of these DBT apps! 2.0 07/14/2018 - Improved Performance
- Users can now edit their DEARMAN entries after being saved. 1.7 12/15/2016 Just a couple small changes most won't notice
- When viewing saved DEARMANs, if your DEARMAN was long enough, the text would be clipped. Scrolling added.
- Removed the MORE button on the Homepage due to being irrelevant. 1.6 12/09/2016 - iOS 9 Optimizations
- Fixed a bug with the DEARMAN Builder 1.5 11/24/2015 - Updated some of the descriptions
- Troubleshooting is now easier to read
- Added a 'Animations' button from the Main Menu which toggles on/off the animated weather (leaves/snow, etc) 1.4 06/25/2015 - Added better support for VoiceOver
- Added new links for our new DBT Apps
- If you own any of our other DBT Apps, you can now go directly between apps using the icons at the bottom of the home screen 1.3 02/26/2015 - Some users found it difficult to read some of the text. Now if you tap most of the text, a popup will appear letting you get a closer look at what the text says. 1.1 03/30/2014 1.0 12/19/2013